Writing is something that has been around since the beginning of time. Researchers and archaeologists have found ancient scripts dating back to centuries. So, writing is something that never goes away, no matter how hard society tries. Once you’ve written something down, it’s there forever. So, be careful what you write about.
In the Introduction, we took a good look at what we should do in the moment of active selfishness and have defined each type of writing, so here is a more specific look at bad writing’s true characteristics:
Using Writing as a Forum to Vent
The way this form is most abused is through putting organizations or groups of people down. If you couldn’t tell, the news is rampant with people venting in today’s world, especially with this new election. But don’t worry, I’m not here to talk politics to you. The media does enough of that on its own. In fact, even Tim Ryan has a section in the Fox 4 Channel News called, “Tell it to Tim,” where people share lots of “got that off my chest” comments. Sometimes prudent silence is much wiser than some of the comments being made. Yet, venting and one comment are very different: one is a few lines long while the other can take up a whole page – even a whole book.
I understand the need to put up that negative review that bashes and hurts a company you hope goes out of business because the seller sold you a cheaply made product for three times the price and never returned your calls, and when they did, they yelled and screamed at you about it until you were red in the face. But, what good does it do if you just yell and scream right back at them. Sure, it feels good for a time, but remorse inevitably follows those unswallowable words. When you write about bad experiences, there is a tactful way to do it, without hurting anyone’s feelings. To be the bigger man and gain the “upper hand” is only accomplished through being wise enough to hold back the nasty words you wish you could express. If this has ever happened to you – first of all, I’d like to say I’m sorry on behalf of those who did that to you – but there is a considerate way to let a supervisor or higher authority know without blowing the roof off the situation. I do not believe the seller or employee should get away with the wrong they may have caused you, but you never know what their situation is. Maybe they just lost their sibling or spouse, or perhaps they can’t make rent and are fixing to get evicted from their home. Don’t assume you know their life, and play it safe by being nice in the midst of their bad attitude.
A man sits at the desk, his eyes wondering from one page to the next in a vain search for a job. It is day 76 and he’s not even catching a nibble of interest from anyone. After sending out 10 emails, making three times as many phone calls and going to at least two different places to check up on resumes, his wife comes home to find him sitting on the couch watching TV to rest his nervous brain and tired eyes. She slams the door on his way in, asking, “So you gonna sit there all day while I bring home the bacon?” No response. “I thought you would have found something by now. I need your help and all you do is sit there at the television and waste away your life, making mine ten times harder.” On and on she goes with tearing him down as a man, husband and even making personal remarks about his personal hygiene. She nagged him until dinnertime, which he was no longer hungry for.
There is good reason men do not appreciate nagging. No one does. Although, at times, people are not really being nagged, they just think they are. So, since there are so many “definitions” of the term, ‘nagging,’ let’s look at Merriam-Webster’s objective meaning of the word: “to irritate by constant scolding or urging.” Constant. Scolding. Nagging is one of life’s cruelest forms of communication strictly for its demeaning feeling that lingers after all is said.
When people nag, it’s usually face-to-face; however, people have been known to nag others through written form. Pulling someone down simply to irritate or annoy someone is not a means of writing – whether professionally or personally. Building one another up definitely provides more of an impact. Imagine this – how would you want someone to speak to you? Do you know all the facts of what’s going on with that person or group of people you are talking to? Be careful what you say, because you can’t take it back.
FROM THE WRITER
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