Bad writing, as you could see, does nothing to help anyone. It’s only to gratify oneself. Instead of being negative and hateful, why not be a positive writer that leaves people with a good feeling that someone took the time to really care? Now, as hard as this may be to swallow, best results come when people write “good” writing. Let’s take a peek at when good writing shines through:
When it Uplifts and Inspires People
Imagine you open your eyes in the first light of the morning. You reach your arm over to the clock, look at the time and realize it is 8:20, and you were supposed to be at work by 8. You jump up, put mismatched clothes on, brush one tooth and leave the door cracked as you insert the key in your car's ignition, putting tread marks on your driveway as you speed off to work. Once you get there, your boss calls you into his office and almost fires you for being late 3 times in one week. He has no idea you’ve just had your mom move in with you at the beginning of the week because of her poor health and you’ve had two weeks’ worth of sleepless nights because you discovered your husband was cheating. When you’ve talked your way out of losing your job, you head back to your cubicle, push back tears and try with all your might to work on the project at hand. Suddenly, the mailwoman comes by your way, stops and stares at your red nose and swollen eyes. He places his hand on your back. She leans in, whispers, “It's OK to cry sometimes. Everyone has those days. We're here for you if you ever want to talk," then walks away.
Now, that little piece of encourage will go a long way after having as many setbacks as you’ve had, right? You want to soak it up like it’s your last few drops of water. It means more in those times of trouble. There is enough criticism going around among other people, as well as in your own thoughts about yourself. Isn’t it time for some positive thinking in the world? Yes!
Good writing is more of a “pay it forward” attitude. When you write to inspire or encourage someone, you are doing them a favor, and yourself a favor, because you will get encouraged for being an encouraging person. Life is much easier and happier when you know you are making a positive difference in someone’s life. Using writing to uplift someone not only affects yourself, but it affects others around you. Those who feel encouraged make life that much better. Sure, it’s easy to spread all the negative blunder out and about, but who is being helped from it? The people you bash in your reviews or your commentary? No one’s ears will be open to a naysayer’s words. Just think to yourself, How can I uplift someone today? Or perhaps you see someone down in the dumps from a bad day, think, How can I encourage him or her? Words used in encouragement to spread love instead of hate are never wasted.
When It Upholds Morals
I know what you’re thinking: What do morals have to do with it? I make my own morals. What right do you have to tell me right from wrong? Well, as hard as it may be to understand, we do have an innate ability to determine right from wrong. And, it’s also important to note that every action has a natural consequence society places on people. For example, if a person kills someone, our society knows that is an immoral act and there will be consequences. If a boy bullies another boy, we know that is not right, so we punish them. We as a society and a species have consequences that take place to enforce justice. Through basic, and often subtle, hints like these, we can find that moral balance.
There are all kinds of morals people can hold: being honest, keeping grades up, sexual purity, staying true to commitments and more. Most of it depends on what our conscience or religion says about morals. But, there are some basic principles on morality that we as humans understand, like kindness is good, and meanness is bad. So when writing to someone or about someone, being rude or mean is never a fun experience for the one being written about. Before posting or publishing something, ask basic questions, like:
1. Is this going to harm or help someone?
2. Am I writing this out of spite or anger?
3. How would this statement make me feel if roles were reversed?
4. Is my argument or opinion being backed up by facts?
5. How can I put a positive twist on my comment, or was there anything positive about my experience?
These are just a few questions you can ask yourself before posting or writing about something you had a bad experience with. The bottom line is if you aren’t trying to understand or show compassion towards others, you’ve used the “wrong” way to communicate. People shut down when being bashed. If you want them to open up, try to communicate with them calmly and kindly. That doesn’t mean you have to bend over backwards in niceness or go all around the point because getting to the point would be too direct. It means you need a firm, understanding perspective before you speak or write your thoughts. No amount of wrong gives anyone the right to harm another person, even though society’s selfish way of thinking has taught many people that. But, as an individual, you can change people’s lives one kind word at a time. Think of how many people you come into contact with in a day. Imagine being selflessly kind to every single one of them, no matter how bad your day or their day has been. We’d reach hundreds of people in a day, which would turn into thousands of people in a week, and millions of people in a year. Isn’t that worth some selflessness?
Having moral kindness in opinionated writing is up to you as a person. I don’t take responsibility or face consequences for your actions, you do. I am just here to encourage you to write "right" and show you what "right" writing looks like and why it's effective. I can guarantee you, someone responds better to a firm, compassionate answer than a harsh one that stirs up anger and trouble. So be careful the next time you are about to bash someone for believing something different than you or didn’t meet your (sometimes) impossible expectations. Be patient, breath and take a walk if you need to - anything to calm down before you write or speak words into existence that you can never take back.
FROM THE WRITER
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