Now that we know exactly what enemy we are dealing with, we are on the right path to destroying it! One main problem in self-doubt is caused from overthinking in your work. Just like in a work of art, you have to let your mind flow with the art in your head. It doesn’t matter about getting it all right the first time, whether that be from a personality, a plot twist or a publishing house. There is a good saying in the movie, The Haunted Mansion: “You try, you fail. You try, you fail. But the only real failure is when you stop trying.” It’s alright not to get it the first time. Just keep trying!
Here are some tips to keep you motivated:
Have a Clear Head.
This is the first step to relieving self-doubt. Have your mind completely clear of all other things not pertaining to your writing. When you have a clean slate, it’s easier to write. Motivation comes when you’ve got as few distracting thoughts as possible. Take deep breaths, or walk around the block, or just the house if need be or write your thoughts down in a journal. Do whatever it takes to rid your mind of all the hustle and bustle of life’s problems, so you can properly focus on the task at hand.
I cannot enunciate enough how important it is to have a positive attitude. There are moments when it feels like the hardest thing on the planet to do. But, having positive or inspiring quotes stamped to a bulletin you read or pictures of family or friends may help you continue up the mountain of self-doubt. Specifically for self-doubt, perhaps you need to tack up quotes that are specific to what you find yourself struggling with. For example, I struggle most with finding the time to write, so placing tips up that deal with time management or a quote like Ann Morrow Lindbergh’s: “I must write it all out, at any cost. Writing is thinking. It is more than living, for it is being conscious of living.” In keeping a positive atmosphere, you are being a problem solver that tries to think of a better solution than the “realistic” one.
If you are not a visual person, perhaps listening to or watching a recording of something that puts you in a positive mood right before you tackle writing may be an option. Or, perhaps you just need to add to the original idea and speak the phrases you tack up each time you sit down to write, or even as you wake up in the morning. Go on Pinterest, Google or another site you know to help you create a positive atmosphere – just remember to not get distracted for too long.
MAKE yourself write
Even as I’m typing this, I will be honest – I’ve been struggling with what to say and how to say it. I was tempted to hold this off until the last minute, but knew it needed to be done. I had stayed out until 4 am last night (not of my own choice, I promise!) and found myself waking up weak from lack of sleep and, well, overthinking what happened the night before. I still decided, although I may have had some valid reasons for not working on this post now, that I would buckle down and finish it. And I am over halfway through!
Sometimes, you just have to give yourself the pep talk: “Ok, I am going to do this whether I feel like it or not!” If nothing else seems to motivate you, you’ve got to take discipline to the next level. No one is going to write your story for you, at least unless you’re willing to pay good money. Most of us want to create our own writing babies. So, get “angry” with yourself – not literally, of course. But, be determined you will not let a measly lack of sleep or scared thoughts keep you from doing the very thing you were made to do.
Excuses Are Doubt’s Favorite Allies
Lots of times, people can’t stay motivated because they give every excuse in the book not to do something. I have a friend from another state who is remarkably fun and refreshing when you are around her. She can make you laugh about anything. She is very gifted in telling you stories about her life – any subject you can bring up, she’ll have a story to go with it. But, one of the things that frustrates her closest friends is when she doesn’t want to do something. She provides excuse after excuse until you finally give in. People who know her and spend time with her understand she gives excuses. A friend in our circle has already labelled her “the queen of excuses,” and she is good at them.
Don’t let excuses prevent you from doing what you want. If you really don’t want to write, then no one should force you to become a writer. However, if you have a passion for writing, think about writing on a regular basis, get ideas and write them down (which I encourage), then don’t provide excuses for not taking the next step into writing. Write if you want to write, and don’t let your thoughts or excuses stop you. They will bring you down and you will be bound to them if you don’t stop them in the beginning.
While I was growing up, my momma always said, “Honey, whatever takes over your thoughts is what has power over you. Be careful what you give that power to.” Don’t let your circumstances have power over you. Will you give power to your excuses and keep on the path of not writing for years when you have a yearning to write? Or, will you kill the excuses and doubts keeping you from what you have longed to do and finally write that story or poem that has been echoing in the back of your mind all this time? You decide.
FROM THE WRITER
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